These are things that basically make me see red immediately, like I have to control myself because my anger and/or cringe are so intense I feel like I’m going to explode. Okay maybe not all of them are so extreme, but a few definitely are. With a lot of them, it’s been that way since early childhood. For some reason, I decided to write them all down. There’s no real reason. I just wanted to do it.
I think some of these may make people feel guilty or hurt or uncomfortable because they know they have done these around me. Unfortunately the gut reaction I get to many of these things is irrationally visceral and not something I can change. A lot of the time I remove myself from situations when I’m exposed to them. In many cases it’s just a “it’s me, not you” type situation (but definitely not always!)
💩 Baby talk from adults —the context rarely matters. The part of my brain that can’t stand it is very unforgiving, and wants to scream even if the baby talk is happening in a very appropriate setting. This is one of the VERY few that has like… two or three very, very specific people as exceptions. I don’t know why my brain made them exceptions.
💩 Small talk that goes nowhere, or messages that just say “hi/how are u.”
💩 People chewing with their mouth open. This tops the list really. It could be my own husband, it doesn’t matter, it’s one of the worst things you can do around me.
💩 People making slurping or sucking noises, especially when eating, or sucking their fingers (for this reason, I LOATHE pacifiers, equally in children and adults. I hate the noise so much, that even the onomatopoeia “nuk nuk” makes my skin crawl, as does seeing a pacifier being used or simply carried IRL. Like with baby talk, there are maybe two people who are odd exceptions to the “carrying a pacifier” rule, but if they make noise with it, I’ll look for an out.)
💩 People talking to me through a pacifier. I don’t find it cute at all. It makes me want to put my fist through a wall.
💩 Neighbors blasting loud music.
💩 Loud swallowing or drinking (I even hate the sound of a drink being poured loudly, as in Coca-Cola commercials, I suppose in anticipation of this.)
💩 People asking me if they can ask me a question (rather than just asking the question from the get-go.)
💩 People who comment on YCHs or commission journals with “I wish I had money” or “I wish I could but I don’t get paid for two weeks”. My heart, like that of so many other artists desperate for a sale, skips a little beat when a new comment shows up while I’m waiting for a sale… and then it’s this. STOP.
💩 Being interrupted and having the other person try to basically yell over me if I don’t let them interrupt me. This is very specific. Mostly my mom does it to me sometimes. It’s also very ironic because I have a horrid habit of interrupting others (gee… I wonder why.)
💩 Snuffling noises (like someone not blowing their nose when they need it.)
💩 People who look at their phones during a movie at the theater (I HATE YOUR FREAKING GUTS.)
💩 People who take flash photography during live performances.
💩 People who cut lines.
💩 Seeing or hearing drool in any shape or form.
💩 Inappropriate convention badges worn in public spaces (anything with bodily fluids… you know what I’m referring to here. Wear one next to me and I’ll pretend I don’t know you, or I’ll try to go somewhere else ASAP.)
💩 Things not having a “place” or being in disarray.
💩 People making incorrect assumptions about me.
💩 People I don’t know at all calling me pet names, especially commissioners!
💩 People attempting to “baby” me (even when they don’t know it’s not my thing. Brain doesn’t care. Brain see red.)
💩 I imagine this one will make some feel bad, but… people who copy-paste the same comment in submissions/journals, or a variation of the same comment. I barely comment on anything, but when I do, you know you’ll get a specific comment, often long, in regards to what you posted. I wish I got the same more often. I’d rather have a single meaningful comment in an entire day, than 20 comments that are a variation on “cute”.
💩 People who say “you’re welcome” when you thank them for giving a compliment on anything, especially a comment on art, or a favorite or watch (in my mind, this implies that giving the comment was a favor, or something troublesome to them.) I immediately regret thanking them.
💩 Conversely, people who “thank you for the favs” (which I’d never do.) To me, this always comes across as you using my profile as your personal billboard.
💩 When someone sends multiple messages to get my attention on messengers but then delete most of them leaving only the last one (I know what you did. I have multiple people do this. It’s so annoying.)
💩 People who give unsolicited critiques.
💩 People who, when seeing a cute animal video or photo, first try to find something that you are “doing wrong” with your pet, or OP’s pet, and make sure to tell you or them, even if they don’t know the context, making wide judgements and assumptions so they can be “helpful”. That cat is too fat. You don’t brush your dog enough. Your terrarium should have 15% more soil. Your hamster looks sad. That snake is lonely. Repeat ad nauseam. You can find this in ANY popular pet video or photo on YouTube or Reddit, with rare exceptions.
💩 Hysterical screaming. More upsetting than simply a “pet peeve”. I’ve often needed to leave rooms when too much screaming happens in a movie. It triggers something in me, I suppose.
💩 Legit copycats. Especially someone emulating someone’s artistic trademarks to the point people can barely tell you apart, or repeatedly copying their YCH ideas to the point it’s definitely not an accident. Especially without the original artist’s blessing, especially without a nod in their direction. This topic is subjective, so these are my own feelings on it and you’re welcome to have different ones, but it won’t change my own visceral reaction to seeing people do this, and I have absolutely lost some respect for people whom I’ve seen do it repeatedly.
Okay, so that’s a lot more pet peeves than I thought. I think most of us have more than we realize… I just remember them better. What are your pet peeves? No judgements here. I’m curious! 😁